30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself
By
OlaPurpose James Asu
1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. - Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2. Stop
running from your problems. - Face them head on. No, it won’t be
easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every
punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve
problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad,
hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living- to face
problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what
ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Stop
lying to yourself. - You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to
yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and
most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
4. Stop
putting your own needs in the back burner. - The most painful thing is
losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that
you are special too. Yes, help offers; but help yourself too. If there was ever
a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that
moment is now.
5. Stop
trying to be someone you’re not. - One of the greatest challenges in
life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.
Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will
always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like
you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop
trying to hold onto the past. - You can’t start the next chapter of
your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7. Stop being
scared to make a mistake. - Doing something and getting it wrong
is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a
trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You
end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop
berating yourself for old mistakes- We may love the wrong person and
cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for
sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all
make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are
not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the
power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever
happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9. Stop
trying to buy happiness. - Many of the things we desire are expensive. But
the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free- love,
laughter and working on our passions.
10. Stop
exclusively looking to others for happiness. - If you’re
not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term
relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own
life first before you can share it with someone else.
11. Stop
being idle. - Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t
even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action.
You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk.
Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
12. Stop
thinking you’re not ready. - Nobody ever feels 100% ready when
an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to
grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at
first.
13. Stop
getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. -
Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad
company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen-
in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love
when you’re ready not when you’re lonely.
14. Stop
rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. - In life
you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test
you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will
bring out the best in you.
15. Stop
trying to compete against everyone else. - Don’t worry about what others
are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day.
Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
16. Stop
being jealous of others. - Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s
blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this. “What’s something I have that
everyone wants?”
17.
Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. - Life’s
curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is
meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens,
and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at
you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better
place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that
today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18. Stop
holding grudges. - Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up
hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What
you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me
ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer….let go, find peace,
liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s
for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next
time.
19. Stop
letting others bring you down to their level. - Refuse to
lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
20. Stop
wasting time explaining yourself to others. - Your friends don’t need it
and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart
is right.
21. Stop
doing the same things over and over without taking a break. - The time to
take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what
you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to
distance yourself to see things clearly.
22. Stop
overlooking the beauty of small moments. - Enjoy the little things,
because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The
best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling
with someone who matters to you.
23. Stop
trying to make things perfect- The real world doesn’t reward
perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
24. Stop
following the path of least resistance. - Life is not easy, especially
when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out.
Do something extraordinary.
25. Stop
acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. - It’s okay to fall apart for
a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no
need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be
concerned with what other people are thinking either. Cry if you need to. It’s
healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to
smile again.
26. Stop
blaming others for your troubles. - The extent to which you can achieve
your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your
life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny
responsibility- you give others power over that part of your life.
27. Stop
trying to be everything to everyone. - Doing so is impossible, and trying
will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe
not the world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
28. Stop
worrying so much. - Worry will not stop tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip
today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask
yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five
years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
29. Stop
focusing on what you don’t want to happen. - Focus on what you do want to
happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If
you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen
in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re
right.
30. Stop
being ungrateful. - No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day
thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for
theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what
you have, that everyone else is missing.
BY MARC AND
ANGEL
I am OlaPurpose James Asu
Africa's foremost Purpose Coach
Principal partner, School Of Purpose
Discovery International (SOPDI)
Convener, Global Changers Forum
(GCF)
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Thank You.
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